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Single in the Lifestyle? Can I Go to Hedonism and Spicy Cruises Alone?

  • Writer: Concations Staff
    Concations Staff
  • 2 days ago
  • 9 min read


The Ultimate Guide to Being Single in the Lifestyle and Attending events like Swinkation, Kinky Caribbean, and Kinky Cruise


No Partner? No Problem. Flying Solo: How Singles Thrive at Lifestyle Resorts and Attend Hedo, Lifestyle Cruises, and Events


One of the most common questions we receive at Concations is: 

"I Don't Have a Partner. Can I Still Go?"

The answer is a resounding YES.

 

In fact, every year we welcome dozens of singles who attend our events without a partner, without a spouse, and sometimes without even knowing anyone else in the group. Many of our attendees first discovered our community by taking a chance, booking a trip, and showing up solo. Today, some of those same people are among our closest friends, repeat guests, presenters, volunteers, and community leaders.

 
"The other attendees were very welcoming and embraced us with open arms…We found that we made friends that we hope to keep for a lifetime, even if we only get to see them in person once a year."

That said, not all events are equally easy for singles to attend, and there are pros and cons to going single at different events.  Let's break down the differences.

 

We can also share some pro tips to help make the process work best for you, including ways to connect and find roommates if that is your goal. More on that below!

 
You Have More Options Than You Think: Single Doesn't Mean Staying Home.

"The Best Lifestyle Trips I Ever Took Started Alone"

Being single does not mean you have to stay on the sidelines. One of the biggest misconceptions about the lifestyle is that you need a partner to participate. While many lifestyle events, resorts, and cruises cater primarily to couples, being single does not mean you have to stay on the sidelines.

 

The reality is that every event is different. Some welcome singles with open arms, some limit the number of single attendees, some charge higher rates for singles, and a few do not allow singles at all. Understanding the culture and policies of each event is an important part of choosing the experience that is right for you.

 

It's also normal to feel a little nervous. Many singles worry they won't know anyone, won't fit in, or will feel awkward attending alone. The good news is that most people in the lifestyle remember what it was like to attend their first event, and many communities go out of their way to help newcomers connect and feel welcome.

 

In fact, attending solo can sometimes create opportunities that couples don't experience. Singles often make friends more quickly, participate in more social activities, and have greater flexibility when it comes to meeting people and exploring different aspects of the lifestyle. 

"I love that this is a small event that allows us to really get to know each other & the exceptional hosts are accessible and approachable"

Whether you're looking for friendship, education, adventure, romance, or simply a vacation surrounded by open-minded people, there are events designed to help you feel comfortable—even if you're arriving alone.

The key is choosing the right event, understanding the policies for singles, and taking advantage of roommate matching programs, social groups, and newcomer activities that help turn strangers into friends.


 
 The Best Events for Singles: Swinkation and Kinky Caribbean
 

One of the biggest advantages of our events is that they are not rushed weekend takeovers. Swinkation, Kinky Caribbean, and Kinky Cruise are week-long (or longer) experiences where people have time to relax, settle in, and build genuine connections. Guests share meals, attend workshops together, spend afternoons by the pool, explore excursions, and see each other day after day.

 
"I have never met a more safe, encouraging, talented, informative, fun, big group of people in my entire life, and it's like we're family."





As a result, many attendees form deeper friendships and connections than they would at a typical weekend event where everyone arrives Friday and leaves Sunday. In fact, many of the friendships, relationships, and travel groups you see at our events today started when someone showed up alone and simply introduced themselves.

 

Kinky Caribbean

If you're single and considering your first trip to Hedonism II, Kinky Caribbean is arguably the easiest place to start.

Kinky Caribbean is a large, educational, social, and kink-focused takeover at Hedonism II. The event attracts a wide range of attendees, including:

  • Singles

  • Couples

  • Poly groups

  • Friends traveling together

  • Newcomers

  • Experienced kinksters

Because the event is held at Hedonism II, you have several options:

 

  • Get Your Own Room

If you prefer privacy, simply book a single room and enjoy the entire resort experience on your own schedule.

  • Find a Roommate

Many singles choose to share a room with another attendee. This can significantly reduce costs while giving you an instant friend at the event.

  • Join an Existing Room

Some attendees book double or triple occupancy rooms and later look for roommates to reduce costs.

 

The result is that singles have tremendous flexibility and usually have little difficulty finding accommodations that fit their budget and comfort level.

 

Swinkation

Swinkation is another outstanding option for singles, and may be superior in that it is a slightly smaller group, making connection easier for some people.

 

While Swinkation blends elements of the swinger and kink communities, it is designed to be welcoming and educational rather than intimidating. The atmosphere is social, inclusive, and beginner-friendly. (Swinkation)

 

Like Kinky Caribbean, Swinkation takes place at Hedonism II and offers the same room flexibility.

You can:

  • Book your own room.

  • Share with a roommate.

  • Join a double or triple occupancy room.

  • Find other attendees looking to split costs.

Hedonism rooms can accommodate multiple guests, and the resort pricing structure often makes shared rooms

significantly more affordable than solo occupancy. (Swinkation Help)

 

For many singles, Swinkation strikes a perfect balance between social opportunities, educational workshops, themed events, and a welcoming community atmosphere.

 

The Most Challenging Option for Singles: Kinky Cruise

Singles are absolutely welcome on Kinky Cruise, However, there is one important difference. Unlike Hedonism II, the cruise charter rules generally require cabins to have at least two occupants. As a result, singles cannot simply book their own stateroom and sail alone. (Kinky Cruise Help)

 

That does not mean singles cannot attend. Instead, singles typically participate in one of several ways:

  • Share a Cabin with Another Single, couple, or triad/throuple;

  • Many attendees find a roommate before the cruise. Some singles join an existing cabin with a couple or additional guests. This can actually make the cruise more affordable than booking with only one roommate. (Kinky Cruise Help)

  • Many attendees begin as online friends and later decide to travel together. While it requires more planning than a resort event, every Kinky Cruise includes singles who successfully find roommates and have an amazing time. The key is starting early, although we have seen roommates connect in the days before an event!

 

Will I Feel Awkward If I Come Alone?

This is often the real question. And the honest answer is: probably for about fifteen minutes. Then you'll realize that many other people arrived exactly the same way.


Our events are intentionally structured to help people meet:

  • Meet-and-greets

  • Icebreakers

  • Social gatherings

  • Workshops

  • Theme nights

  • Excursions

  • Pool parties

  • Community activities


You do not need to arrive with a partner to participate. You do not need to arrive with friends. You do not need to already know anyone. Some of the strongest friendships and relationships in our community began when someone nervously showed up alone and introduced themselves.

 

How Do I Find Friends or Roommates? The best approach is simple:

  1. Register early.

  2. Join the event social groups and attendee communities. For Concations events, you can

    1. Join our Discord Community & meet other attendees, potential travel partners, ask questions, & more.  JOIN HERE:  https://discord.gg/hfa2EsGukJ 

    2. Post on our seeking thread in our FetLife Group:  https://fetlife.com/groups/124079/posts/12574317

  3. Let us know you are looking for a roommate and what you are looking for. We keep a list. It helps if you have a Fetlife, SDC, SLS (etc.) profile that we can refer potential roommates to.  It helps to tell us your preferences for a roommate to support@concations.com and we will try to pair you up with someone compatible that is also looking for a roommate. We have a growing list of people looking to share double and triple rooms to save costs, share space, etc.

  4. Be flexible and open-minded.

 

Every year we help connect attendees who are looking for compatible roommates. While we cannot guarantee a roommate match, many attendees successfully find one through our community.

 
Staff opportunities:

 

Finally, feel free to let us know if you are interested in joining the team as a member of our staff.   Staff can be fun! Another added perk is the ability to meet people on the staff team prior to the event and during the event at staff meetings.  We have found that most staff members want to do it again the next year. Staff can also earn discounts and affiliate commissions.

 

Learn more about staff opportunities and how to apply here:

 
 Which Event Should I Choose?

If you're single and trying to decide:

Choose Kinky Caribbean if:

  • You want the largest kink-focused community.

  • You want maximum flexibility.

  • You want the easiest roommate and room options.

  • You want a full week at Hedonism II.


Choose Swinkation if:

  • You enjoy both swinger and/or kink environments.

  • You want a highly social atmosphere and/or a smaller more connective group

  • You want the flexibility of Hedonism II accommodations.

  • You enjoy a blend of education, nightlife, and community.


Choose Kinky Cruise if:

  • Cruising is on your bucket list.

  • You have a roommate or roommates that you want to share a cabin with or are comfortable finding roommate(s) in advance.

  • You want the unique experience of a lifestyle cruise.

  • You don't mind a little extra planning.

 

Tips for Singles: How to Meet People Before and During the Event

 
Stop Waiting for the Perfect Partner: Your Lifestyle Adventure Can Start Today
 

The best way to meet people starts before you even arrive. Join our Discord community, participate in our FetLife group discussions, and post in the roommate and "seeking friends" threads. Attend our online video meet-and-greet sessions before the event and take advantage of any pre-parties or local gatherings. Kinky Cruise also hosts an in-person pre-cruise meet-and-greet where many attendees meet for the first time before boarding the ship.

 

Once you arrive, make a point to attend the newcomer meet-and-greets, icebreakers, speed dating sessions, welcome parties, and other social activities scheduled during the first day or two of the event. These activities exist specifically to help people connect and are filled with other attendees who are often just as eager to meet new friends as you are.

 

One of the easiest ways to start conversations is to look for attendees wearing our unique handmade name necklaces. These necklaces make it easy to identify fellow group members and give you an instant conversation starter. Don't be afraid to introduce yourself, ask where someone is from, or compliment their necklace, outfit, or costume. Lifestyle communities tend to be far more approachable than many newcomers expect.

 

At meals, don't automatically sit alone. If you see an open seat at a table, simply ask if you can join. Likewise, if you're seated alone and another attendee looks like they're searching for a place to sit, invite them to join you. Some of the best friendships at our events begin over breakfast, lunch, or a late-night snack after the evening festivities.

 

Most importantly, remember that the overwhelming majority of attendees are welcoming, friendly, and remember what it felt like to attend their first event. Take a few small chances, introduce yourself, and be open to conversation. You may arrive alone, but chances are very good that you won't stay that way for long.

 

Ready to take the plunge?

Being single is not a barrier to attending any of our events. For most singles, Kinky Caribbean and Swinkation are the easiest options because you can book your own room, share with a roommate, or join others in a room at Hedonism II. (Swinkation Help)


Kinky Cruise requires more planning because the cruise line generally requires double occupancy cabins, but singles attend every year by pairing up with roommates or joining larger cabin groups. (Kinky Cruise Help)

So if you've been waiting for a partner before taking the trip you've always wanted to take, consider this your sign:


You don't have to wait. Come make friends. Come learn. Come explore. Come have an unforgettable adventure.

We'll save you a spot.

 

Questions? Need more reassurance?

Still have questions or want to talk through it?  Don't hesitate to reach out by text/WhatsApp, email, or phone!

ABOUT CONCATIONS

An Organizer You Can Trust

​The Concations Promise: 

Ten Years of seamless, professional experiences — from booking to the beach — so you can relax, connect, and play with confidence.

​

For more than a decade, Concations has been creating extraordinary, worry-free vacation experiences for adventurous travelers. With over 50 successful events in 10 years, our team is known for concierge-level service, professionalism, discretion, and attention to detail.

​

Concations is a premier event organizer specializing in sex-positive, clothing-optional vacation conferences at the renowned Hedonism II Resort in Negril, Jamaica, including Kinky Caribbean and Swinkation, as well as Kinky Cruise.

 

Established in 2015, Concations has been at the forefront of creating immersive experiences that celebrate freedom, education, and community within the realms of ethical non-monogamy (ENM), BDSM, and other alternative lifestyles.​


Learn more:

Questions? Contact us anytime!

​Email: Support@concations.com

Call, Text, or WhatsApp:  571-969-2463

 
 
 
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